People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) have symptoms that may lead to challenges in relationships. If you know someone with BPD who has extreme mood swings, fear of abandonment, self-harming, and self-destructive behaviors, you may be feeling powerless and frustrated. While being around someone with BPD may feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster, you can still have a successful relationship with them when you better understand their mental illness.
Listen to Them
People with BPD are sensitive to signs of rejection or abandonment. Simply nodding your head to say yes when they are talking could make them think you are not paying attention. They may feel hurt when they feel they are being dismissed or not heard. You may not have to answer every time someone with BPD talks, but it is essential to show you are genuinely listening so they can sense your attentiveness.
Take Notice of Their Inner Child
BPD usually stems from deep-rooted trauma. During an argument or a confrontation, remember that they are a hurting child inside. They may not handle an argument the same way others would and may go into the state of a traumatized child. Try your hardest to look past what they tell you and understand the needs they are expressing to you. See where they are coming from before you get upset at them.
Set Boundaries
Even when you recognize those with BPD are hurting, it does not mean that you can’t set boundaries. You can be loving but firm towards them. When you are in an argument, try not to walk away as it can trigger abandonment fears and rejections. Instead, you can let them know that while you understand where they are coming from, there are certain things you are not willing to tolerate. While conflict with someone with BPD can be challenging, you two can still make things work out with patience and understanding.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be a very challenging mental health disorder to deal with. It can be hard for partners of people with BPD, especially when it comes to confrontation, as BPD symptoms can bring a unique set of challenges. It is essential to have patience and understanding when confronting your loved one. At Alta Loma, we understand the challenges of BPD, and we are here to help you. Located in Georgetown, Texas, we offer individualized therapy, family treatment, coping skills education, and more. Call us today at (866) 457-3843 for more information.